Reading through the personal ads can be a skill, an art in its own.
You may find that skimming through the personal ads has become your
latest habit, searching for the person that meets your profile needs and
desires but without success. Have you been looking for love but in the
wrong profiles, or are you searching for more that is not written in the
lines of a personal ad? If you read more into a personal ad than what is
actually written in the profile and in the pages of the personal
classifieds, you may find yourself conversing or dating a person that
does not have the same personal dating ideas as you or the same
objective in a relationship which puts you back at the beginning of the
process again.
You already know that the listings in the personal section are from
people just like you, people who want to meet someone special to fit
into their life so starting with the personal ads is a great way to meet
someone. However, maybe you are reading the profile of someone wanting
to find just a friend, or maybe the profiles you are reading is someone
that is also hinting towards a search for love in a relationship. You
need to be a distinctive reader.
The odds are in your favor when searching the personal ads for in
finding a companion or lover. You already know that if the profiles you
are reading are not seeking some type of friendship or relationship,
they would not have created a profile for others to review. However, the
steps in deciding who you will make contact with can be one of the most
difficult in your search.
Your journey reading the personal classified section will require the
need to look within yourself discovering what you type of relationship
you are truly in search of. Are you searching for a friend, for a lover,
or are you searching for a true lifetime commitment? Whatever category
you place yourself in, choose the replies and profiles that meet your
standards in your search for a relationship helping you narrow your
search, which will make the personals much easier to sort through. If
you would sit in front of your computer and continue reading all of the
personal ads presented, you may find yourself overwhelmed with
information and choices to be made. Narrowing your criteria and the idea
of what type of relationship you are searching for creates the best
results.
If you are searching for a friend or companion only through the
personal ads, start with profiles that state this specifically in their
profile, which you will find many. In discussing profiles of those who
are not looking for a serious relationship, you may find the following
phrases used: ‘want to have a good time’,’ not looking for a
relationship’ and ‘not willing to give my heart away’, ‘just
want to spend some time with you’ or ‘seeking another with a great
listening ear’. There are various words used expressing friendship,
companionship and those just looking to date. Use these expressions and
words to help you sort through the personal ads narrowing your decision
among the many people listed.
Profiles of people searching for friendship use words that stick out
like: ‘looking for fun’, ‘friendship’, ‘no commitments’, ‘companion
wanted’, ‘only looking for a good time’, ‘need help in building
my confidence’, ‘I want to roller blade in the park all day’,
finding words that express fun and friendship stating no commitments or
relationship will help you sort through the profiles you are reading.
Are you in search of that someone special to be more than just
friends are? Learn to read more into the written words. Find
descriptions such as ‘looking for love’, ‘searching for that
someone special’, ‘more than friends’, ‘quiet and cozy’, ‘easy
going and lovable’, ‘special times’, ‘treasured moments’, and
words similar to ‘lovable’.
So what about your profile, read over the words again. Does the
profile really express your thoughts about a relationship, what type of
relationship you are seeking and whom you are expecting to meet using
the personal classifieds? Deciding what type of person you are searching
for, what qualities you desire, and how far you want the relationship to
mature are steps in realizing you are taking the right direction for
meeting that someone special through the classifieds. Clarify your
words, express your real thoughts and ideas about who you are seeking
clearly which will aid those that are reading your profile connect
easily with you.
Matching your personality and the relationship you are seeking with
the personal profile or description of another person that is seeking
similar relationships can be tough but using your feelings of what you
want from a relationship as a basis when reading and sorting through the
personals is a great beginning.
